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Three things.

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Happy Women’s History Month! I’m going to bring back Words from Wise Women — check out the archives here — who would you like to see featured? Also, check out this amazing infographic, “Women’s History: A conversation through time.” Looking for daily inspiration on rad women? Cup of Jane is a great follow.

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Sometimes I struggle with trying to explain my anxiety to friends and family. It’s not an easy thing to describe. My go-to metaphor is the “keeping your head above water while the waves keep growing.” So when I saw this article from The Mightya great resource for all-things mental health—I was really interested to see how others put it into words. #5 & 12. Too real.

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Words of Women, as always, killing it with their advice and insights.

The most important thing to do, however, is to pull yourself inward today and focus on the details in your life that need attention. We may feel worn out with the process and exhausted by our own resistance. It is time to take a breath, take stock, acknowledge what has been surrendered and see what pieces are left. What are the next steps you need to take to keep the momentum going? Sign up for the newsletter for tomorrow’s tips in using this energy to make the most of our week, month and year. Sign up here.

Seeing the Words of Women newsletter in my inbox always makes me happy. It’s beautiful for both the eyes and the heart. You won’t regret it, I promise. And this is coming from someone who usually hates newsletters.

 

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Three things.

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Man Repeller had a pop-up shop this week in NYC & I so wish they’d do one in Europe. I love this mug. But really, as MR always poignantly points out, it goes beyond the beautiful stuff, it’s about gathering together to learn, share, and love.

But most importantly, all the time, I hope we’ll provide safety. My mom tries to tell me that pregnancy is not all its cracked out to be. She recalls the memory of being 23 and seven-months-pregnant as a new immigrant in New York, married to my dad, an insensitive boy at the time, with her parents thousands of miles away. “I was scared and self-conscious and alone,” she often tells me. “I needed something like Man Repeller, but didn’t have it.” It reminds me of how I felt when I was 14 and heartbroken and didn’t understand if friendship was supposed to be painful and full of deceit because it was. That’s when I needed Man Repeller.

So this place, really, beyond the wifi and the books and the boob lamp, is a physical reminder that even inside the depths of darkness that is so black we lose our balance, we are soooooooooo not alone.

Leandra is just everything, right?

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Emma Stone did an interview with The Talks and talked openly about her anxiety and struggles as a sensitive person. (So rad to hear her talk openly about it.)

“For a long time I thought being a sensitive person was a curse.”

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Who knew a balloon could show you so much? (Original source unknown.)

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This isn’t a veiled announcement…

… I just love Midwife Clemmie Hooper’s blog, Gas & Air, and new book “How to Grow a Baby and Push It Out.”

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I can’t remember how I found Clemmie, aka Mothers of Daughters on Instagram, but I do remember loving her feed instantly. She has four daughters, two of which are twins, and she keeps it real. (A much-needed breath of fresh air in the world of social media.)

  And how fantastic is her style? And her girls are so flippin’ gorgeous!

As the aunt of 8 little (and not-so little, anymore!) babes, and former au pair and nanny, I have been lucky to have a front row seat to motherhood, a safe distance from the ring, but close enough to have had my fair share of sweat & tears splattered on me. (Is this boxing metaphor ridiculous or what? No regrets.)

 

What I really love is how honest and raw she keeps it, all the while expressing how important motherhood is and how rewarding it can be. And, while I’m not at that stage yet, I do know that when that day comes I’ll definitely use Clemmie’s book as a guide.

I highly suggest you listen to this hilarious, insightful podcast interview with Clemmie on Scummy Mummies, as well as these other pieces, if you’re interested:

Motherland’s, “Expecting the Unexpected”

The Telegraph’s, “Meet Clemmie Hooper, the ‘Insta-midwife’ every millennial mother-to-be wants at their birth”

Alex & Alexa’s, “Family In Focus with Clemmie and Simon Hooper of Gas & Air

And, of course, her husband, Simon aka Father of Daughters, is worth a follow as well — his posts never fail to make me laugh.

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Bravo, Glamour Magazine. Kind of.

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Regardless of how you feel about the show GIRLS on hbo, you gotta admit it was pretty rad to find out that Glamour’s February issue was entirely created by women. That’s incredibly cool in an age where, in some segments of the magazine’s production, men still outnumber women (its sole audience!) two to one. Wild, huh?

So I’ll raise my bra to Glamour for this initiative, but I have three major concerns.

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  1. The fashion featured on the cover is all Marc Jacobs. (Need I say more?) Go Fug Yourself elaborates:

Fashionista’s article about this notes that every outfit is Marc Jacobs — which apparently means the issue did not extend its embrace to using only female designers, or at least using one on the cover, which seems like a big oversight. And unfortunately, nothing about Marc Jacobs’s designs here imbues much strength, or suggests anything tremendously confident to me, thus yielding a cover that is ridiculous and costumey and punctuated by the worst of shoes. (Those things aren’t a female force; if there’s an argument that they’re a subversive statement on the beauty standards imposed on female feet, I’m not buying it.)

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2. One of the main photoshoot themes was “fashionable slumber party” SLUMBER PARTY. (****insert one million eyerolls here****)

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3. I wish they had showcased more of ALL the women involved, including the journalist who interviewed them. Go Fug Yourself just gets it.

It’s a show created by a woman and with another female showrunner, both of whom direct many episodes as well. That thing is not male-gazing all over town, and in fact, I wish Jenni Konner had been included on the cover. She conducted the interview, and having her present would’ve neatly underscored that the brains behind the scenes are just as aspirational and vital as the ones in front of the camera.

But, all in all, it was a relatively refreshing initiative from Glamour. Here’s to seeing more of it in the future. My criticisms aren’t to discredit what Glamour has attempted to achieve here. I just believe they can be even better next time.

Onward & upwards.

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