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Three things.

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I finally saw La La Land this weekend. It was so lovely and ever since I’ve had the soundtrack on repeat. Emma Stone is absolute perfection; she’s so incredibly talented, it’s ridiculous. (The song she does in the “audition” scene w r e c k e d me.) This is a really fascinating look at how the song came to be.

This is not a studio vocal. Emma was not lip-syncing. She was singing it live on set. I was accompanying her on piano, letting her lead the song and take the space she needed to act it. Because I was letting Emma lead the song, I was reacting to her. So a lot of times the piano is a little bit behind the vocal. It sounded like a recital or something where you know the singer is leading it and the piano is there to accompany. That’s what happens when two people make music together; things are not perfectly in sync. That’s why it feels musical and why it feels real and honest. (Vulture.)

This instagram post just stole my heart.



Love love loved this post from Woolgathering & Wildcrafting on Nice Girls vs. Kind Women. Having been raised in the American Midwest, this spoke to me deeply. I make it a point now to approach life as a Kind Woman; I’ve bid my past days as a “Nice Girl” adieu.

Kindness is benevolence. It is the grace of our care, a gift that we can decide to bestow. Nice is mild and forgettable. Kind is a power unto itself. Kindness is a bigness. In many cross-cultural myths, we hear of references to the ancient Goddesses as being kind (though, just as often, Goddesses chose to be deeply wild, sharp and severe). But we never hear of a Goddess being nice. Goddesses simply aren’t nice. Nice isn’t big enough for the vastness that is feminine energy, compassion, and care.

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Thanks for everything, Mary!


I grew up watching the Mary Tyler Moore Show. I remember admiring everything about her — her tenacity, vivaciousness, independence, and of course, her amazing fashion. She showed that independent women could be just as strong as women in relationships. That notion has really stuck with me throughout the years. I’d be lying if I said she didn’t influence my decision to study Journalism.


“In 1970, after having appeared earlier in a pivotal one-hour musical special called “Dick Van Dyke and the Other Woman”, Mary Tyler Moore and husband Grant Tinker successfully pitched a sitcom centered on Moore to CBS. The Mary Tyler Moore Show is a half-hour newsroom sitcom about a thirty-something single woman who worked as a local news producer in Minneapolis; Moore’s show proved so popular that two other regular characters, were also spun off into their own series. The premise of the single working woman’s life, alternating during the program between work and home, became a television staple. All in all, during its seven seasons, the program held the record for winning the most Emmys – 29. That record remained unbroken until 2002 when the NBC sitcom Frasier won its 30th Emmy. The Mary Tyler Moore Show became a touchpoint of the Women’s Movement because it was one of the first to show, in a serious way, an independent working woman.” – Words of Women

Mary-Tyler-Moores-Legacy-is-More-Important-Than-Ever-Man-Repeller_Feature.jpg“Can we talk about how Moore created a new definition for what it looked like to be a woman in America? Or how she pitched a television show about a divorced woman when the subject of divorce was still forbidden on network television? Or how she depicted something other than a wife or mom or witch or genie in an era when that image of womanhood was considered the limit?!” – Man Repeller

“You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” – Mary Tyler Moore


Thanks, Mary.

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My need for change (literally).


I’m going to be honest. I’m rotten with money.

R O T T E N.

Knick knacks are my number one weakness and food comes in at a close second. I am a “comfort shopper” — I look for happiness in things when my anxiety is high and my mood low.

Problematic for many reasons, most of all being the fact that buying these things has yet to make me feel better long term — or hell, longer than 5 minutes after leaving the store. It’s a quick fix that provides a distraction. At least until I check my bank balance which will, without fail, result in lots of cringing, regret, anxiety, and of course, a touch of self hatred.

So I’m trying to come up with a plan.

(CONFESSION: I just had to stop myself from buying financial help books on Amazon because THAT’S THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT WE’RE TRYING TO DO HERE, ANNA.)

I’ve always poked into the wonderful blog, “And Then We Saved,” always admiring Anna’s self control and ability to save, and always clicking away in shame… But the last couple of days I’ve been reading it inside out as I make a “financial freedom” plan of attack.

One big realization I’ve made lately is that I want the freedom that comes with having your finances under control. So far I’ve imprisoned myself in my spending behavior, repeating bad habits all the while longing to change. So that’s what I’m wanting to put down in words as a record right here: I will empower myself through the freedom that comes with healthy financial habits.

Maybe I’ll keep updates here, maybe not. But I owe it to myself to make note of it now. To hold myself accountable (pun 100% intended.).

Some rad resources & posts from And Then We Saved


“Making money is a hobby that will complement any other hobbies you have, beautifully.”  -Scott Alexander


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Always have. Always will.


“I have sometimes thought of the final cause of dogs having such short lives and I am quite satisfied it is in compassion to the human race; for if we suffer so much in losing a dog after an acquaintance of ten or twelve years, what would it be if they were to live double that time? The misery of keeping a dog is his dying so soon. But, to be sure, if he lived for fifty years and then died, what would become of me?” – Sir Walter Scott

Patrick was a pup who lived life big. He didn’t just have one stuffed toy, he had twenty. He didn’t enjoy a bite at a time, he snarfed it up in one bite. He loved car rides, snuggles, taking up the whole bed, chasing the ball, barking at the neighbors’ dogs, and pats from anyone and everyone.

The first time I laid eyes on him he was in the back of my parents’ car, sitting tall with a tennis ball in his mouth. He arrived for the first time like he had been created just for our family and was ready to live his best life and teach us his ways in the meantime.

Boisterous, hilarious, and the best Scooby Doo run imitator you have ever seen,  I’ve never met a dog that made me belly laugh as much as he did.

We said goodbye to our sweet, goofy boy yesterday. Him in my parents’ arms as I wept from thousands of miles away. He got sick and within days was gone. My heart will forever regret not being there with him, but I know that he knows I love him.

Always have. Always will.

More Patrick stories.


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Bravo, Glamour Magazine. Kind of.


Regardless of how you feel about the show GIRLS on hbo, you gotta admit it was pretty rad to find out that Glamour’s February issue was entirely created by women. That’s incredibly cool in an age where, in some segments of the magazine’s production, men still outnumber women (its sole audience!) two to one. Wild, huh?

So I’ll raise my bra to Glamour for this initiative, but I have three major concerns.


  1. The fashion featured on the cover is all Marc Jacobs. (Need I say more?) Go Fug Yourself elaborates:

Fashionista’s article about this notes that every outfit is Marc Jacobs — which apparently means the issue did not extend its embrace to using only female designers, or at least using one on the cover, which seems like a big oversight. And unfortunately, nothing about Marc Jacobs’s designs here imbues much strength, or suggests anything tremendously confident to me, thus yielding a cover that is ridiculous and costumey and punctuated by the worst of shoes. (Those things aren’t a female force; if there’s an argument that they’re a subversive statement on the beauty standards imposed on female feet, I’m not buying it.)


2. One of the main photoshoot themes was “fashionable slumber party” SLUMBER PARTY. (****insert one million eyerolls here****)


3. I wish they had showcased more of ALL the women involved, including the journalist who interviewed them. Go Fug Yourself just gets it.

It’s a show created by a woman and with another female showrunner, both of whom direct many episodes as well. That thing is not male-gazing all over town, and in fact, I wish Jenni Konner had been included on the cover. She conducted the interview, and having her present would’ve neatly underscored that the brains behind the scenes are just as aspirational and vital as the ones in front of the camera.

But, all in all, it was a relatively refreshing initiative from Glamour. Here’s to seeing more of it in the future. My criticisms aren’t to discredit what Glamour has attempted to achieve here. I just believe they can be even better next time.

Onward & upwards.

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Three things.


Clare Hollingworth, journalist & all-around woman of wonder, passed away earlier this week at the age of 105. Her obituary at the NYT is incredible and inspiring. What a woman.


Winter flower bouquets are some of my favorites. This one is perfect.

I’m not telling you to make the world a better place, because I don’t think that progress is necessarily part of the package. I’m just telling you to live in it. Not just to endure it, not just to suffer it, not just to pass through it, but to live in it. To look at it. To try to get the picture. To live recklessly. To take chances. To make your own work and take pride in it. To seize the moment. – Joan Didion
Here’s to a good week ahead.