blog features, blogging, blogosphere

No. 3

Joseph Gordon-Levitt recently talked about his role in 500 Days of Summer and his character’s selfishness. Which, in turn, made me see the movie in an entirely different (yet, interesting) light.

 “He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life.”

Modern Hepburnone of my favorite tumblrsposted an excerpt from the blog Spilt Milk that got me thinking a lot about the new trend/philosophy of not telling young girls they are pretty, rather complimenting them about other things like their skills and knowledge. (Honestly, I’m still on the fence on this issue.) 

“Like the fantasy of being thin, the desire to be pretty is backed by a multi-billion dollar industry and untold numbers of daily encounters with people who’ve swallowed the social pressures whole and made them their own mission to prescribe. Girls who desire a piece of the pretty pie aren’t misguided, inherently frivolous or lacking in ambition. They want to do stuff; it’s just they’ve internalised the message that they must look good doing it for it to count for anything. And that is why the right to be ugly — the right to do and be without being gazed upon and always found wanting — is worth defending.

My rad friend Mackenzie, the fabulous blogger behind Whatever, Gatsby, wrote a post about the blog-o-sphere and manages to bring so many unspoken things to light. I applaud her. And I am going to take her advice to heart. Things are gonna get real ’round here. ; )

“in some ways i find some of these blogs, like people, to be safe. they tread lightly, hoping to not rock the boat so much. i continue reading, hoping that i might learn something different; i might not have to sift through largely unoriginal material, i might not have to read (or not read) dumps of instagrammed photos without a narrative of any sort, i might not have to see blogs started four months ago with huge sponsorships and millions of followers when they spend multiple posts talking about minutiae (new wrinkles on their faces, what they ate for each meal that weekend, gratuitous pictures of their pugs). i stumble on these blogs because i hope they might have something to teach me, but quality shouldn’t be inferred by clicking on their link after seeing an overdone “ooh, cute!” comment on a favorite blog, but anyways. back at the ranch.”

I recently happened upon this post on The Paris Review, an interview with Mary Karr on The Art of Memoir 1, and this excerpt resonated with me the most:

So when you’re writing a memoir, you can’t allow yourself to be an unreliable narrator?
You have constantly to question, Is this fair? No life is all bleak. Even in Primo Levi’s camp, there were small sources of hope: you got on the good work detail, or you got on the right soup line. That’s what’s so gorgeous about humanity. It doesn’t matter how bleak our daily lives are, we still fight for the light. I think that’s our divinity. We lean into love, even in the most hideous circumstances. We manage to hope.

Laura was so sweet and asked Sam and me to write guest posts while she was on her honeymoon. Sam wrote one of the most beautiful posts I have ever read. (Speaking of, Laura’s wedding was gorgeous. Seriously, the pictures are incredible. Also, her and Radley’s vows!)

And then one day, you walk into a house party and find love. Despite the tears and all the time, it feels sudden. It’s so suprising that all it took was this one moment! A moment that will forever separate the “before” and “after.”  

Really, that’s all we’re waiting for … just one. One moment. One person. 

Which isn’t so many, isn’t so impossible, isn’t so hard to find.

And lastly, today is the fifteenth anniversary of Princess Diana’s tragic death. She is certainly missed, and will forever be remembered.

“I put it to William, particularly, that if you find someone you love in life, you must hang on to that love and look after it… . You must protect it.”— Princess Diana

happy reading!

header image via W.E. 
a wonderful film.

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Words from Wise Women: Kate Winslet

When I first saw Titanic in the third grade, I was mesmerized by Kate Winslet’s beauty. She was gorgeous and, even at the ripe age of seven, I knew she was different than other actresses. She was real. Ever since then, so many of her films have become my all-time favorites (The Reader, The Holiday, Finding Neverland…the list goes on.). She’s the type of actress I respect profusely; fantastic at her craft, and honest about life. She’s truly someone I am proud to see on magazine covers; someone I look up to when it comes to body image.

“I was a wayward child, very passionate and very determined. If I made up my mind to do something, there was no stopping me.”

Yes, my life is incredible but oh my god, I have to work at it. It’s the same for any working woman. You run and you work and you try not to let anything drop.

There are moments to indulge and enjoy, but I always know when it’s time to go home and wash my knickers.”

As a child, I never heard one woman say to me: ‘I love my body.’ Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. Not one woman has ever said: ‘I am so proud of my body.’ So, I make sure I say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start from a very early age.”

I’d much rather be known as some curvy Kate than as some skinny stick.” 
Nobody is perfect. I just don’t believe in perfection. But I do believe in saying, ‘This is who I am and look at me not being perfect!’ I’m proud of that.

There’s more to life than cheekbones.

I need to be looked after. I’m not talking about diamond rings and nice restaurants and fancy stuff—in fact, that makes me uncomfortable. I didn’t grow up with it and it’s not me, you know. But I need someone to say to me, ‘Shall I run you a bath?’ or ‘Let’s go to the pub, just us.’
I do think it’s important for young women to know that magazine covers are retouched. People don’t really look like that. In films I might look glamorous, but I’ve been in hair and make-up for two hours.” 
Even now I do not consider myself to be some kind of great, sexy beauty. I don’t mind the way I’m ageing. No reason to panic just yet. I think I look my age, and that’s fine. The lord God almighty has done me proud with my features which I’m proud of and have no desire to alter them. I say let nature take its course. 
I don’t feel like a movie star in my life at all, and I don’t particularly think I behave like one. I don’t have my own plane. I don’t have a chef or a trainer. To me, you’re a movie star only during the time when you’re at the Academy Awards or at an important glamorous event. It’s very much a hat that you wear, and as soon as the event’s over, that hat comes off. I’m back to being me and being Mommy, and that’s my priority. ”
When you’re the mother of small children, life becomes a holiday.
Life is short, and it is here to be lived.”

(Oh, Kate. You’re such an inspiration.)

(above graphic by me.)
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Dreamy workspaces…

Rachelthe chic writer of the inspiring blog Little Bits of Lovelywrites a weekly feature called “Wednesday Workspace,”and it is one I always look forward to. 
Rachel has an eye for picking out the most beautiful, creative spaces to share. 
Here are some of my absolute favorites:
(click through for original post on Rachel’s blog.)

Since I am moving out soon, and living on my own for the first time (since the dorm days), I am getting really excited to make a space in my apartment where I can solely write and create. (Opposed to the couch… 😉

Eek, so much inspiration A girl can dream, right? 

someday, this is the dream i'm working on

This is the dream I’m working on.

I am a bit finicky when it comes to blog ideas. I used to do Sunday Sweets, which I loved and will someday start back up again, and I did Pin Love, which was essentially a spin-off of Sunday Sweets, but I just couldn’t get into it. Anyway… 

…I’ll get to the point(!) I’ve created a bit of a compromise:
A new weekly series: “This is the dream I’m working on.”
This will feature things that I daydream about, things that I’m working toward…etc. (I know, the title is creative, right? 😉 

So let’s get down to it!
I’ve watched so many women in my life raise kids while juggling 100 other things in the meantime. I am always mesmerized by their gusto. (Because after babysitting, I’m usually ready to crawl into bed and not come out for a good twelve hours.. 🙂 
I just hope that I’m able to find that balance (and the energy!) when I have kids someday. 
And most of all, that I can be a mom that my little ones look up to, just like I look up to my mama.

see my pinterest board that inspired this series, here.
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Dating Around the World//Victoria, Australia

James H.

(Note: LROL is for Little Reminders of Love.) 

LROL: At what age do people typically begin to go on dates? 

James: Usually mid to late high school, I guess (so… 15-18), but it’s not uncommon to be a bit before or after that, either. That said, it’s a very different type of date then to the sort I’d go on nowadays.

LROL: Who asks whom on a date, normally?
James: The guy, of course! Well, that’s not entirely true. I’ve been ‘asked out’ a few times by girls previously, I suppose, but in a very informal, casual way. I think this is becoming more common (and props to those who do it!).

LROL: What is a typical first date like?

James: Back in high school it was usually together with other friends, maybe to the movies or swimming pool. Post-school, it’s more likely dinner or drinks, or even just a coffee at a cafe. I’m a big cafe fan, it’s much more relaxed!

LROL: What is culturally “expected” of you and your date?

James: Nothing in particular, just getting to know each other a bit better and sussing out whether you want to have another date.

LROL: Who decides what the date will be?

James: Generally whoever asks, but not always. Like, if the askee can’t make the proposed time, they might make a counter-suggestion.

LROL: Who pays?

James: More often than not the guy, but I’ve had girls jump in to pay for themselves before I had a chance to say otherwise. For dates further down the track, it’s more of a pay-for-yourself or take-turns kind of thing, which I like.
LROL: What are the post-date norms?
James: I had a discussion with my (female) housemate just the other day about the “3-day rule”… We both think it’s very silly. But everyone has differing opinions about who should do what, and I’m sure some still adhere to older rules like that. I think it depends on how the date went – how/when you get in contact says a lot about how you feel.

LROL: What would you change about the dating culture of where you live?

James: My city isn’t so big, which makes it a little awkward – everyone knows someone you know! Also I dislike it when things are too formal – not a ‘proper’ date fan, to be honest, but I usually can manage to avoid them.
LROL: What do you like about the dating culture of where you live?
JamesThere isn’t too much pressure on either party, which is nice. It’s often more of a “we’ll just see how this goes…” kind of thing.
LROL: What was your best date?
James: It was in Sweden, actually – we went out for lunch and enjoyed chatting so much that we ended up having afternoon tea and dinner together, too!
LROL: And your worst?

James: Probably the most ‘proper’ date I’ve been on, I got a bit dressed up to go out to dinner at a restaurant. I felt rather awkward, and she was nice but we just didn’t have very much in common.

LROL: Anything you’d like to add that I forgot to ask?
JamesI feel like I should add some sort of disclaimer. I really don’t have a lot of ‘dating’ experience (‘dating’ seems a little outdated to me… I see how it could be appealing, but I prefer things to be much less formal), and of course I can’t speak for the whole of my city, let alone country.

Thanks James! It’s great to see things  from the male perspective sometimes. I think it’s so funny that so many of us think the three-day rule is a bit bogus, yet we all follow it to some extent! ; ) 

Do you guys have any questions you’d like to have added to the interview? Feel free to leave your idea(s) in the comments. If you’d like to participate in this series, please submit your contact information here.

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Speaking of fashion…

I can’t decide how I feel about the popular nail trends for Fall 2012. I love the look of the model’s dark purple nails pictured above, but I worry it’d look like I have plum-stained fingertips if I were to try it. (I’m so weird.)

I recently bought a few bottles of Wet N Wild nail polish and it actually lasts longer on my nails than any other brand I have— buying it may feel like a flashback to 3rd grade, but at 99 cents a bottle, who cares?!

Also: I love this Germany line from OPI.

The names are so funny, too:  My Very First Knockwurst, Berlin There Done That, Don’t Pretzel My Buttons and my personal favorite: Don’t Talk Bach To Me.

See the whole collection and names here.

Anyway, do you all dig the forecasted nail fashion? Or do you stick to your all-time favorite hues?