quote of the week

{Quote of the Week.}

“Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep really sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough.”-William Saroyan

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Words from Wise Women: Amy Poehler

I love these quotes from the ever-so-talented Amy Poehler. I want to write them on everything so I am reminded of them everyday.


“No one looks stupid when they’re having fun.”

“Listen. Say ‘yes.’ Live in the moment. Make sure you play with people who have your back. Make big choices early and often.”

“The answer to a lot of your life’s questions is often in someone else’s face. People’s faces will tell you amazing things. Like if they are angry, or nauseous, or asleep…Try to keep your mind open to possibilities and your mouth closed on matters that you don’t know about. Limit your ‘always’ and your ‘nevers.’ Continue to share your heart with people even if it has been broken.”

When you feel scared, hold someone’s hand and look into their eyes. And when you feel brave, do the same thing. You are all here because you are smart. And you are brave. And if you add kindness and the ability to change a tire, you almost make up the perfect person.”

“Take your risks now, as you grow older you become more fearful and less flexible. And I mean that literally. I hurt my knee this week on the treadmill, and it wasn’t even on.” 

I’ve said this before, that, when you’re in school and you’re the class clown, men are really good at making fun at other people and women are really good at making fun of themselves.

“Girls, if a boy says something that isn’t funny, you don’t have to laugh.”

Don’t treat your heart like an action figure wrapped in plastic and never used. And don’t try to give me that nerd argument that your heart is a ‘Batman’ with a limited-edition silver bat-erang and therefore if it stays in its original packing it increases in value.

I just love bossy women. I could be around them all day. To me, bossy is not a pejorative term at all. It mean’s somebody’s passionate and engaged and ambitious and doesn’t mind leading.

Try to keep your mind open to possibilities and your mouth closed on matters that you don’t know about. Limit your ‘always’ and your ‘nevers.’

I’ve always dreamed of growing up to be Amy Poehler.

(I think the last quote is my favorite. I really, really hope to say the same one day about myself. Is it weird that I want to make my 5-year-old self proud?)

(above graphic by me.)

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Dating Around the World//Oregon, USA

 
Heidi Ramp 
hramp09@gmail.com 

(Note: LROL is for Little Reminders of Love.) 

LROL: At what age do people typically begin to go on dates? 
Heidi: I think this varies by person. In my super small hometown, people had “boyfriends” and “girlfriends” in 5th grade, but didn’t actually go on legitimate dates til 7th, 8th, or 9th grade. Even then the dates tended to be in groups or supervised by parents. Real, one on one dates begin around sophomore year, or 15ish.

LROL: Who asks whom on a date, normally?
Heidi: Again, it depends on the person. So far I’ve mostly seen a 50/50 split on who asks who – some girls just have more courage than others, some guy are just more shy.

LROL: What is a typical first date like?

Heidi: Well, I’ve only lived in really small towns that are about half an hour away from the big cities. In my experience, the first date is usually some place local in case either person wants to leave early – it’s also cheaper than paying for gas! Usually it’s dinner, with a movie or bowling or something cheap (read: free!) since it’s mostly college students around here.

LROL: What is culturally “expected” of you and your date?

Heidi: Ah, this is where Americans love to blur the lines! Personally, I think it’s expected to end with no more than a good kiss at the most, but definitely some form of contact – holding hands, a good night hug, something. However, I have some friends that believe that you shouldn’t touch at all, and other friends who think it is perfectly acceptable to sleep with someone on the first date. I think it all depends on the American sub-culture you were raised with.

LROL: Who decides what the date will be?

Heidi: Usually whoever does the asking. Sometimes the asker will only have enough courage to ask and then makes the other person pick the activity, but that’s rare.

LROL: Who pays?

Heidi: The guy should, but as most of my friends and I are still in college, it’s pretty normal to go dutch on a date.

LROL: What are the post-date norms?

Heidi: There are so many different “norms”! Typically, though, as I have pointed out to several of my girlfriends, the guy waits at least 24 hours to make contact, and even then it’s more likely to be a text than a call. People don’t call each other anymore unless they have been dating a long time.

LROL: What would you change about the dating culture of where you live?

Heidi: Hmmmm…. I definitely think it would be nice to even out the ratio here – There are 4 women to every man on my campus! But mostly I wish guys didn’t expect so much. Since the ratio is so off, most guys figure if a girl doesn’t immediately want to hop into bed, they can just find another one who will.

LROL: What do you like about the dating culture of where you live?

Heidi: I like that the dating culture is not rigid at all. The rules change with every relationship, and there is no set process.
LROL: What was your best date?
Heidi: Mini golf! My second boyfriend knew that my dad had strict rules about us dating – I was only allowed on group dates until my dad said otherwise – so he planned a fun day with his best friend and I. There was a new glow-in-the-dark mini golf course at the mall in town, and I seriously laughed the entire time. We were just goofing off and having a blast without any pressure of a one on one date.
LROL: And your worst?

Heidi: A date to the dining hall on campus. We were both freshmen in college, and he said he was going to surprise me for not helping me with my philosophy the night before. His surprise was that he got me my favorite flowers – after he had our mutual friend blatently ask me what they were. It was awkward – he had already gotten his food and grabbed a table, leaving me to go through the lines alone. After I sat down, the conversation was very lopsided and kinda boring – he mostly talked about his hometown and I was too nervous to say anything. At the end, he walked me back to my dorm, and then left without so much as a hug or a hand hold!

LROL: Anything you’d like to add that I forgot to ask?

Heidi:

Thanks so much, Heidi — Mini golf is always a solid choice. ; )

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Big news: Munich calling…

I am so excited to share that I’ve accepted a job & am moving to Munich in September! 

It’s been a really exciting couple of months and it feels incredibly odd to be finished with university, but it feels wonderful. I am proud that I made the choice to complete my degrees & am ecstatic that this opportunity popped up. 
It’ll be especially great to reconnect with my Northern German loves, though they may still be a bit far away. But a train ride away is much nicer than a plane ride away. ; ) I hope I’ll be seeing my family there soon!
Coincidences are God’s way of getting our attention. Frederick Buechner 
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Dating Around the World//Calgary, Alberta, Canada

    Greg Novak

gregrnovak@gmail.com

(Note: LROL is for Little Reminders of Love.) 

LROL: At what age do people typically begin to go on dates? 
GR: 12 years old. Unless you count supervised, arranged dates. Then that shrinks down to 1 year old.

LROL: Who asks whom on a date, normally?
GR: The party with confidence. Statistically the male, but I feel like that paradigm is shifting. Of the last three (new; blind) dates I’ve been on, the female has suggested the time and place. Although I made initial contact in each case.

LROL: What is a typical first date like?

GR: In my experience, this is generally a post-dinner date over drinks and appetizers. Rarely, a ore-dinner date fielding out the possibility of enough interest/chemistry warranting dinner (and/or more).

LROL: What is culturally “expected” of you and your date?

GR: This question feels vague or ambiguous. I feel like the expectation is that the initial meeting will involve a crossfire-style interview process of lifestyle questions that basically gauge personality, sense of humour, financial status, education, and overall lifestyle compatibility. A given level of awkwardness is generally expected, so some are better at minimizing the social disconnect than others. I’m in sales, so I generally find myself very relaxed and confident (sometimes over-confident?) in my discourse. Personally, I leave a very narrow window for low intelligence/witty banter.

LROL: Who decides what the date will be?

GR: With the exception of a VERY traditional gender role-player (in which case the female will pointedly leave it up to the pursuant male) I feel like this is generally suggested by whomever initiated the date, and is rarely disapproved by the other party.

LROL: Who pays?

GR: I don’t ever see a reason for the female to pay. Courtship is anthropologically sacred, and should be bankrolled by the pursuant male in the same way an engagement ring is a demonstration of a financial preparedness/ability to support a mate/family. Having said that, if there is little or no interest in pursuing the other party, a silent ducking out on the bill is not unheard of.

LROL: What are the post-date norms?

GR: I think this depends on the individual natures of both parties involved. By the end of a (successful) first date, the pursuant male should be reasonably confident in what sort of follow-up is appropriate/desired/will result in a future rendezvous. Personally, I like an immediate text msg post-date (within the hour) along the lines of, “I had a great time! I’d like to do it again!” give or take humour or established shared jokes/anecdotes. This also takes the pressure off of both parties, and allows the female to respond at her leisure as to whether or not another date is in the books.

LROL: What would you change about the dating culture of where you live?

GR: I don’t really think there is much I would change. I enjoy the freedom and diversity of people I have the opportunity to meet and how I’m able to conduct myself.

LROL: What do you like about the dating culture of where you live?

GR: I believe I answered this in my previous response.
LROL: What was your best date?
GR: Haha. Without exploring too much detail, we shared a rather impressive evening of public witty banter over drinks that continued into a two-year romance. It became clear very quickly that we shared a similar sense of humour and lifestyle ideals. We became intimate within a few more dates
LROL: And your worst?

GR: We met at a local bar for drinks. It wasn’t horrible, but it was obvious after several minutes that we didn’t have much in common. We ended the date at the first opportunity, and mutually decided afterward motto see each other again. It actually wasn’t that bad I suppose lol.

LROL: Anything you’d like to add that I forgot to ask?

GR: Am I amazing? Yes. Yes I am. I am a real treat. And strangely enough, still eligible. Heh.

Thanks so much, Greg — It was great hearing from a male perspective! And ladies, he’s available.

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